Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Getting Started

"So, I'm engaged. I'm so excited for the wedding, but I don't even know where to begin!"

Is that you? Let this entry help you get started. Also, don't forget to check out CMWA's Virtual Mall to begin your vendor research.

But wait: get organized! Start a file or notebook where you can keep track of everything related to your wedding in one place!

What are the first things you need to get figured out? Of course,  the first question you'll be asked is "when's the wedding?" so set a date. You could go at this two ways. First,  you could choose a date and then find your sites that are available that date. You could do this if the date is more important to you than the place. Or,  you could choose sites that you love & then set your date based on their availability. This includes your ceremony and reception sites, if they will be different.

Next, start calling photographers, videographers, DJs, and any other musicians right away. Especially if you're planning a spring or summer wedding, these vendors can get booked quickly. Find out how long they will hold your date if you're not sure if you're going to use them.

Another thing to jump on is the formal wear for the wedding party. Most of the time, bridesmaids dresses aren't made until they're ordered. This can take several months to get them in to your bridesmaids. Then they will need to be altered for each girl. Remember: always take into account the body shapes of your bridesmaids & pick a dress style that you like, but that will also flatter everyone. 

And of course, your dress is important, too! Depending on how you get your dress, you may need to order and wait for this as well. Don't forget that you'll need to have several fittings in order to make it perfect for you.

It's never too early to start compiling your guest list. You will need to have this finalized early enough to order your invitations, wait for them to come in, address & send them no later than 6 weeks before the wedding. You may be surprised how long deciding your guest list can take. Especially since you need to coordinate with your fiancĂ©'s side, too.

Things that can wait until closer to the wedding include:
  • registering for gifts: this should be done about 3 months before the wedding
  • gifts for your wedding party & those involved if not getting paid
  • Cake - most bakers prefer to meet with you 1-2 months ahead
  • Rehearsal dinner location
  • Honeymoon plans
Don't forget to apply for your marriage license several months in advance. Also look into what you'll do about insurance, name changes and everything else you'll need to have done once you're married. 

Good luck!