Kids at Your Wedding?

As if choosing your wedding guest list wasn't hard enough with the limitations of space and budget, you face an even tougher dilemma... Should you have children at your wedding?

There is no easy answer to this one. It really depends on you. Are you super close with your nieces and nephews? Does your family party together with the kids on a regular basis? If so, it might be hard to imagine NOT having them as a part of your wedding.

Let's explore some of the pros and cons to keeping the kiddies.

Cons

* Kids are kids. They can be delightful, but then can also be disruptive and noisy, especially during those "quiet moments" in the church.

* The parents of those children will spend the entire night chasing them around, wiping snotty noses and swatting bottoms instead of enjoying themselves.

* You're likely spending more than $20 per plate to feed your guests. The extra expense to feed children who are going to throw most of it on the floor can make you want to scream.

Pros

* Parents will easily be able to attend because they won't have to make special arrangements.

* If you have a close family, having the kids there everyone who is special to you and makes them a part of your memories.

* Kids have lots of energy and energy is FUN. They'll be the first ones on the dance floor and will give the ladies an excuse to get up with them.

* They're just so darn cute! Especially in those mini-tuxedos and flower girl dresses.

Choose what's right for you. If you can't imagine your day without the kids, invite them. If the thought of screaming babies gives you wedding nightmares, make your reception "Adults Only." And don't let your family and friends pressure you.

Make one general rule and stick with it. If you decide not to have kids, don't allow any. This makes it easier to explain. "I'm sorry, we just don't have enough space/budget/patience for kids at the wedding." When you start making exceptions, things can get ugly.

Do yourself and your guests a favor and HIRE BABYSITTERS. Pay someone to watch and play with the children. This way their parents will actually be able to relax and enjoy themselves, and the kids can still be a part of the day.

Give the kids a diversion. Provide a kiddie craft table with coloring books and crayons at the very least. A gift bag stocked with toys can keep them occupied.

What's your take on children at weddings? Leave a comment and share your experience.

Portions of this post came from:
http://www.besthudsonvalleyweddingever.com/how-to-plan-a-wedding/having-kids-at-your-wedding